This year I started doing something different.
If you've followed me for a while, I started offering not only my "basic session", but a few other "themed" investments. One of these ideas is couple's boudoir sessions. Which has sparked a lot of interest on my Instagram feed.
A couple's boudoir session is a great way to celebrate your relationship... and seems to be a growing trend judging from my social media and the boudoir photographers I follow. They are hot, they are spicy. but they are also cute as hell!
I've loved doing these sessions because it's incredible watching a couple truly open up and forget I'm there. They just get to the point they are only interested in seeing one thing - eachother. For some couples' that have young kids, this can also be a bit of cuddle time you might not get at home!
Now, you might think this kind of boudoir session would be incredibly awkward...
But it doesn't have to be.
I work with couples' with posing.. and generally what I do is give people tasks. Having worked with people in intimate environments for 3 years, I know how awkward it can be going into a session, as well as how many nerves get built up around it! Sometimes giving people tasks, helps them put their focus on something other than the camera. I don't demand any of my clients or models look at me... boudoir is about embracing your body and letting go... looking at the camera takes away from that mind-body connection a lot of the time. Plus, in a couple's shoot, I want you focussed on each other!
I've also found with a few hetero couples, that there is a major concern about the male part of the relationship getting excited during the shoot. For one, there's nothing wrong with that. Like, at all. It's nature after all, and I'm sure your partner would actually love the feeling and the thought that you're still attracted to them! Christ, I don't even know if there's a man alive on earth that control the "other brain" anyway! 😜
At the end of the day, my sessions are a safe place to express yourself. These sessions can be as cute or as hot as you want. I do draw the line at penetrative shots. That is my boundary and something I always communicate. Everyone has a line they don't want to/can't cross... it needs to be communicated both ways.
Now that I've mentioned one boundary line, there's something else I'd like to discuss.
Boudoir is a job for me. I know the thought crosses some people's minds as to whether or not I get off on doing things like this. There's some American photographers (at least) that have actually been asked to join in on a couple's session and take it further! Not only would this be extremely unprofessional behaviour, but a scary situation to put a photographer into. I hope this never happens as I would have to end the session right then and there.
I've never thought anything along these lines while doing a boudoir photoshoot. It's a job. It is work. I'm way too nervous just thinking about getting the perfect shot to even consider anything else haha. The only thing I ever feel during a boudoir session (as the photographer) is pride. Pride in the person whose taking a massive step and enjoying themselves immensely.
Pride that they've given me the opportunity to do this with them. Pride that they've chosen me to capture those special intimate moments between loving people.
There was a moment during Jess and Nick's session (images with lots of tattoos 😊), where Nick stopped during the session and started giving Jess a shoulder massage. being a part of that moment, just fills me with so much joy... being witness to a couple so totally devoted is just something else! I bet you know what I'm talking about, but apologies if I'm just rambling haha. But I feel people need to know this is what I see and concentrate whole-heartedly on when doing a shoot. It's all about you and your images.
Something couple's always ask is this....
"What should we wear?"
Truth is, just like any other boudoir session, you can wear anything and everything, or nothing! It all comes down to what you want and what you're comfortable with. Most guys don't really want to get their kit off or be just in their underwear, which is completely fine. If this is the case, there's something I can recommend.
I'm a big fan of a good storyline. And a fantastic storyline for boudoir can always start with a man being surprised when he walks through the door.. yes cliché, I know. But... it means that it's perfectly acceptable for one of the couple to be fully clothed/partially clothed.
As with all my clients, if you wish to do nude or implied nude, I will give you privacy between poses and let you know if there's anything showing that you might not want shown. I give privacy by turning around and let you move or cover yourself so that we can continue with the session.